ok some things have happened
went to the parts shop and picked up a few things, some oil additives and stop leaks to stop the smoking, though i probably do have bad rings and definitely valve guides
i replaced the valve cover gasket which was blown out badly, so my oil spurting problem has been fixed,
the heater has disconnected by the previous owner, we aren't sure if it works at all so the intake and heater exhaust form a long loop of hose, while i was replacing the valve cover gasket i moved this hose a bit to get at the cover, and noticed that it was cracked right at a bend in the hose, cracked to the point where i basically snapped the hose right off, so i cleaned up the hose end and reattached it. car was running better but still not well, i started losing water at that point, which we believe to come from the hose end that i reattached
took it into my mechanic's shop, had him put it back into timing, and run a pressure test, he found a freeze plus that was rusting out, and replaced a few hoses, also noticed that my pcv hose was completely worn out, any vacuum pressure would flatten it out completely rendering it nearly useless
the car is now holding a temp, even though it is high than it should be its not over heating anymore, i will be saving some money up to get a fan with a clutch, and maybe get a larger aluminum radiator